Hawzah News Agency - Question: How can I become skilled, or develop high morale and liveliness, when my father—who is an ordinary man—frustrates my wish to continue my higher studies and asks me to work with him in the market instead?
Answer:
Research and experiments have proven that creative people possess high morale and unshakable self-confidence. They are the ones who did not expect their first experiments to succeed; instead, they prepared themselves to receive failure first, because they were ready to snatch success from failure without ever submitting to it.
A creative person is one who offers their productivity and tries their best to develop it continuously until they reach the top. This high spirit—which views failure as a discovery and a means of learning something new—is worthier of success and worthy of being honored throughout history.
In order to continue on the path to your aim:
- First: Think deeply about your aim and the ways that will get you there!
- Second: Discuss your thoughts with reasonable people in order to discover any defects in your opinion, and then decide correctly, without pride.
- Third: Do not ignore difficulties, for they are a part of the way to success and a motive that strengthens the will of successful people.
- Fourth: Seize any opportunity to strengthen your hope in success. And the best of opportunities is a connection with Allah the Almighty. As an Indonesian proverb reads, “Unless you raise your hand to the heaven, it shall not raise from the earth.”
- Fifth: When vitality comes to you and your heart becomes delighted with work, stick to your project firmly and do not let this opportunity go in vain through useless activities.
As for your father, with respect and calmness, you can understand one another. You can also send some respectable people to try to convince him. It would be better if he did not know that they were sent by you.
On the other hand, you can explain the future of your ambition to him and explain its advantages according to his way of thinking in life. For example, if he is interested in financial matters, you can say to him that when you get a doctorate, you will establish a scientific foundation or a clinic whose income will be far more than what you can earn by working in the market as an ordinary worker. Tell him that a reasonable person always looks forward to the far future and tolerates the difficulties of the present for the sake of that goal.
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Source: "For a better future" by Hussain Ansariyan , Q17
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