Hawzah News Agency (Qom, Iran) – The Qur’an is the very word of God; a complete record of the exact words revealed by Almighty God through the Archangel Gabriel to His Last Messenger. This holy book is not just a torch of guidance for afterlife, and if you look at it close enough, you would find important messages for living in this life as well.
Here we are going to present some informative articles about how you can relate on the verses of Qur’an in real life which potentially would lead to solving your personal and social problems and having a very spiritual and beautiful life by accepting God’s commands:
We all may have faults and things that can get on each other’s nerves. However, the key is; what are you magnifying? Are you just magnifying that annoyance, letting a critical spirit rise up? Are you choosing to see the good and only focusing on the good? If you are negative toward your spouse and you operate out of a critical spirit, it is going to poison your whole outlook. You will not communicate properly. You will not want to do things together, and it will affect you in every area. After all, when you are critical, you begin to nag and exaggerate and make a big deal out of things that are not big deals; “Well, you never take out the trash. Well, you never spend any time with me. You are always late.”
Qur’an says about spouses: “They are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them.” (Qur’an; 2: 187) Therefore, you should save your spouse. Think about the purpose of marriage. Why did Almighty God create man and woman? He created for you mates from your own selves that you may take comfort in them, and He ordained affection and mercy between you. There are indeed signs in that for a people who reflect. (Qur’an; 30:21)
Therefore, they should not criticize each other. They should avoid suspicion; avoid spying or backbiting one another. O you who have faith! Avoid much suspicion. Indeed some suspicions are sins. Do not spy on or backbite one another. Will any of you love to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it. Be wary of God; indeed God is all-clement, all-merciful. (Qur’an; 49:12)
Know that usually people respond to praise more than they respond to criticism. The next time you want your husband to mow the lawn, instead of nagging and saying: “You lazy thing. When are you ever going to mow our lawn? It looks so bad.” Just say, “Did I ever tell you that when you are out there mowing the lawn, you look really good? You praise him like that, and he will mow the lawn every day!” People respond to praise more than criticism.
When you are constantly critical, you have to realize the problem is not with your spouse or your friend. It is not even with your circumstances. The problem is with you. Imam sadiq (peace be upon him) said, “Jesus always said to his companions if you are my friends and my brothers, do not feud people nor hate them. If you do not, then you are not my brothers. Do not look into people’s flaws. But think about your salvation because you are servants.” Moreover, Imam Ali (peace be upon him) said, “It is enough for the ignorance of a person to pay attention to the fault of people while he is unaware of the same fault on himself.”
Author: Abolfazl Sabouri
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