۳۱ فروردین ۱۴۰۳ |۱۰ شوال ۱۴۴۵ | Apr 19, 2024
Chapter ۸۳: Live with them in kindness

Appreciate your spouse’s strengths and learn to downplay their weaknesses. If you do, your marriage will be filled with more peace, unity and love, cause anyone who is kind to his spouse, God will provide him with a long life.”

Hawzah News Agency (Qom, Iran) – The Qur’an is the very word of God; a complete record of the exact words revealed by Almighty God through the Archangel Gabriel to His Last Messenger. This holy book is not just a torch of guidance for afterlife, and if you look at it close enough, you would find important massages for living in this life as well.

Here we are going to present some informative Articles about how you can relate on the verses of Qur’an in real life which potentially would lead to solving your personal and social problems and having a very spiritual and beautiful life by accepting God’s commands:

There was a couple that moved into a new neighborhood. Early one morning while they were eating, the woman looked out the window and saw the neighbor hanging her wash out on the line to dry. She noticed that the wash was so dirty and so dingy. She said to her husband, “That neighbor does not know how to wash. Her clothes are not clean. I wonder if she even uses detergent.” Day after day, she made these same comments. “I cannot believe she lets her family wear those dirty, dingy clothes.” Several weeks later, she looked out that window, and the clothes were just as bright, clean, and beautiful as could be. She was so surprised. She called her husband and said, “Honey, look. The woman finally learned how to wash. I wonder what happened.” The husband smiled and said, “Honey, I got up early this morning and cleaned our window.”

 The problem was not that the neighbor had dirty laundry. The problem was the window she was looking through was not clean. She was seeing everything through a tainted filter. It is the same way beauty; or you only see the scratch in the floor and never the amazing house; if you never see what your spouse does right and only what they do wrong, then my encouragement to you is to clean your window. The problem is not with your spouse. It is an internal issue. Holy Prophet (peace be upon him and his pure progeny) said, “Blessed is he who, according to his fault he keeps looking to his brothers faults.”

 If you struggle in this area, I would encourage you to make a list of the qualities that you like about your spouse. Write down the things that they do right. He may not be a good communicator, but he is a hard worker. Put that on your list. She may have some weaknesses, but she is a great mother. She is smart. She is intelligent. Write that down. Every day go over it. Start focusing on their good qualities. Live with them in kindness. If you dislike them, then perhaps you may dislike something and God makes in it much good. (Qur’an; 4:19)

 You have to make a switch. Decide today to start appreciating your spouse’s strengths and learn to downplay their weaknesses. If you do, your marriage will be filled with more peace, unity and love, and you will see God bless your marriage and your life in greater ways. Do not forget that “anyone who is kind to his spouse, God will provide him with a long life.”

 

And the end of our prayer is:

“Praise be to God, the Lord of the worlds!”

May the Lord bless you and protect you.

May the Lord smile on you

And be gracious to you.

 May the Lord show you His favor.

And give you His peace.

 

Author: Abolfazl Sabouri

Meditation on God's word

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